What is your definition of happiness and what do you need to be happy? Is there a secret to happiness. I know what I need and the steps to go get it. Or at least try to.
Another day another dollar right? Maybe, maybe not. Not every day is the same. Not every day you will be happy. It is almost impossible to always be happy despite catastrophies we face and daily challenges. But here it is. 5 Steps to help you get some happiness. Not completely because happiness takes effort and comes from within. Sometimes we set ourselves up for failure in our attempts to reach happiness, which for many is equivalent to financial stability, elite status and self gratification or admiration disregarding others' feelings and opinions. What in the psychology world means Narcissistic traits.
“Understand that not everything that happens to you is your fault or bad karma, if you didn't put your two cents in it. It is necessary for you to go thru some trials and tribulations for your personal growth. Come to terms with it and embrace it. ”
Steps
Understanding that not everything that happens to you is necessarily your fault or bad karma. Sometimes it is necessary for your personal growth to be tested. Come to terms with it and embrace it. Nothing last for ever. Take that bad situation and change it to a positive. Look to see what is it that life wants from you, do it and move on. Don't be stuck in the negative and dwell on it. You will only delay the process. Remember the beautiful butterfly and it's cycle. It goes thru the 4 metamorphosis stages. First it goes thru being in a cocoon, then a larva, then it becomes a caterpillar and then becomes a beautiful butterfly. These stages prior to the beautiful adult butterfly is painful. Never the less it embraces the process to get what it wants. Be beautiful, fly high and continue on. Think about your situation like that. Sometimes we must face sadness and pain to get to the beautiful happy place.
Embrace your situation, heal and help others. You don't only go thru situations for your own personal growth. You must help others to then heal yourself. Remember, helping is healing.
Be happy with yourself and what you have. Love yourself, set goals, set reasonable and measureable goals with a time frame to meet them and go for it. If you don't meet it at the specific time you set yourself to, don't give up, it may not be time yet, but doesn't mean it will not happen. Continue to work on it and yourself. Always with the vision of where you want to be, how and why. Your attitude, perspective, character is what makes you unique from others. It makes you, you. You are like the spots in a giraffe, there are not two alike, you are you. Be the one that stands out, don't wait for others to point you out.
Understand that life has moments where it can be a roller coaster. You or I can't control that. But you are the operator, you determine how high or low and for how long it will ride. Life has it good and bad days. It's inevitable to always have "happy days" every day. What makes the difference is your outlook to it.
There is no secret to happiness. You decide what makes you happy, regardless of your surroundings. You give it definition to your life and you define what your happiness is.
I'm not rich, I don't live this luxurious life we all dream of having. But I am blessed. Not for what I have but because I have a family who cares, a roof over our shoulders, a daughter who despite obstacles before her birth challenged the odds just like her mother and was born healthy, ahead of time like her mother but healthy, blessed because I realized and saw that all along God never, ever left my side. People came and went in my life. Often leaving scars, but the one that never left and never will, is God. I realized now that He wanted great things for me since the beginning, I took a detour to try and get ahead and instead got alot of headaches. Blessings were delayed because of that. My mistake, yes I acknowledge that, but now I know that what He had for me all along should I had waited, I would have had them. But He needed to mold me first to get me to that place. Gosh has the molding taken long and been hurtful at times. But it's been worth it. Now you tell me what is happiness, what is your secret.
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